Breaking up is hard and it’s especially difficult to understand what your ex-partner is thinking. You may be trying to figure out if he still loves you, but without talking directly with him, it can be hard to know for sure.
Don’t worry though; there are some universal signs you can look for that will give you a pretty good indication of how he feels about you after the breakup.
In this article, we'll unpack some potential giveaways that suggest your ex may still have feelings for you – so pour yourself a cup of tea (or wine!), and let's dive in!
1. He checks in every once in a while
Have you ever received a call from an ex-partner after a breakup, and they mentioned that they just wanted to check in? It may not seem like a big deal, but it could be a sign that they still love you.
Even if he hasn't been checking in as often as he used to, the fact that he still makes an effort to do it occasionally is a good sign.
Additionally, if he's been asking about you frequently, it shows that he cares about you and wants to make sure you're doing okay after the breakup.
So, don't get too caught up in his reasons for checking in, and just be glad that he's still thinking of you. Who knows, it could be the start of something new.
2. He doesn’t have a relationship (after you) in a long time
After a breakup, it can be hard to tell if your ex still has feelings for you. However, if you notice that your ex hasn't shown interest in anyone for a while, it might be a sign that they still have feelings for you.
People often hold onto their emotions after a breakup, and it's not uncommon for them to have a hard time moving on. If your ex is still single and hasn't dated anyone in a long time, it could mean that they're still holding onto the hope of getting back together with you.
It's important to remember that everyone moves on at their own pace, but this could be a subtle hint that your ex isn't quite ready to let go of your relationship just yet.
So, you and your ex have gone your separate ways. You're trying to move on, but you notice that he's still following you on social media. What does that even mean? Well, from our experience, we would say it's a good sign he's still into you.
Even if he's not the most active social media user, he'll make sure to check in on your profiles from time to time. You might catch him liking or reacting to your posts, or he may even leave a comment telling you how great you look on a post.
And let's not forget how he's following your Instagram account and showing interest in other pages you're engaged with. All this is a clear indication that he still cares and wants to stay connected with your life.
While social media isn’t always the most reliable indicator of someone’s feelings, it can provide some clues as to what’s going on in your ex’s head.
4. Drunk dialing
Let's take a moment to talk about drunk dialing. We've all heard about it, and some might even have experienced it. It can come in many forms - a call to check if you're doing okay, or a chance for him to finally confess what he really thinks about the breakup.
It's a touchy subject, but the truth is, drunk dialing can show how much he still cares about you. Maybe he didn't know how to express his feelings properly and turned to alcohol as a coping mechanism.
The fact that he's still willing to pick up the phone and call you, even in a drunken state, speaks volumes about how much he wants to reconnect with you.
So, while some might see it as an annoyance, maybe it's worth considering what's driving the behavior behind the drunk dialing.
5. He stays in touch with your friends and family
Breakups are tough. It’s hard to know what the other person is thinking or feeling. But if your friends or family members have recently seen or spoken to your ex, it’s a good sign that he’s still keeping tabs on you.
He may be unsure about his feelings or just trying to figure out if he’s moved on or not. This is why he might reach out to those closest to you to get some insight.
It’s important not to jump to conclusions or make assumptions. Instead, try to focus on your own healing and well-being during this time. Take care of yourself and trust that everything will work out in the end.
6. He says things to his friends, family
Have you ever broken up with someone and felt a twinge of regret afterward? Well, it seems like this guy might be experiencing just that. Apparently, he's been vocal with his friends about how much he misses you and how lonely he feels without you.
He's even gone as far as admitting that he feels guilty for breaking up with you because no one else makes him feel the way you did.
On top of all that, he's been saying things like, "I was stupid to break up with her, but now everything's okay." It's interesting to note how he reacts when your friends or family members tell him that they miss you.
If he seems genuinely affected by it, that just goes to show how much he still cares about you.
7. You catch him looking at old photos of the two of you
Breaking up with someone you love is never easy. It's a time of adjustment and healing, but sometimes, it's hard to tell if your ex is still holding on to those feelings. One telling sign is catching him looking at old photos of the two of you.
It may seem like a small thing, but trust us, it's a big deal. If he's taking the time to reminisce about your past, it means that he still values the memories and the time you spent together.
There's a reason why he's holding on to those photos and it's worth exploring. Maybe he's thinking about reaching out to you or maybe he's just trying to come to terms with the breakup.
Either way, it's a sign that he still cares and that the possibility of reconciliation is not out of the question.
What Should You Do?
It can be hard to know what to do when faced with these signs that your ex still loves you. The best advice we can offer is to take some time for yourself and focus on healing and self-care. Don’t rush into anything or jump into the same old patterns of behavior.
Instead, try to think about things from his perspective and be open to communication if it feels right. It’s also okay to put some distance between the two of you until you’re sure how you feel.
Whatever you decide, just remember that being kind to yourself is the most important thing.
Breakups are never easy, but if you're feeling like getting back together with your ex is the answer, take a step back and really think about it. If your ex still loves you and wants to make things work, then it could be worth giving him another chance.
However, if he doesn’t care anymore, then unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be and trying to mend something that has already broken will only cause more pain.
Listen to your heart - even though it may take time before you’re ready to turn the page and move on from what was once the person who meant so much to you, remember that ultimately, you deserve to be happy whether getting back with him or not.
If you want to give getting back together a try, Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning is truly a great way to start – with many tips on how to get your ex back and get the relationship on the right track!